Category: the Rant Board
Okay, so for the past week, I have been trying to plan our annual sibling-only outing. I have been asking everyone, what days and times work best for them. I know that while I sit here on my ass all day during my summer vacation, my oldest sister is a housewife and a mother of five with one on the way; my other sister has two jobs, and my younger brother is attending college three days a week. So when I asked my two older sisters what day works for them, they just said: "Just tell me what day you wanna get together." So when I suggest the weekend to my sister with two jobs, she says that doesn't work for her, and together we settle on Tuesday around 4:30. So I tell my brother the day and time. It won't work for him because he doesn't get out till 4:30, and he attends school half an hour away. So then 5:00. I text my sister with the tribe, the time and day. She responds: 'Um, no, I have five kids and a husband remember? I thought it would be on the weekend."
What bitch?! Why the hell didn't she tell me that she wanted it then? I'm absolutely furious with both my sisters because neither of them are cooperating with me to plan this. I'm mad because I really want this, we never get to spend time as just the four of us. I'm going to lose my mind! This will not be my job in future years. Don't wanna work with me bitches, then fuck it! I feel like I'm the only one who really wants this, even though my oldest sister is the one who originally brought it up two weeks ago.
PEOPLE! ... GET! ... ON! ... MY! ... NERVES!
no use in stressing/hurting over something that's out of your control. tell them to contact you on their terms; that way, you can go about your life and won't continue being disappointed if it doesn't happen.
The thing is that we're trying to do this before my nephew is born at the end of this month so that we can hang out with our oldest sister. I like that we do this annually because we all live very different lives, and I attend college on the other side of the state, so spending time with all three of my siblings at once is a treat.
I understand, but why keep putting your heart into something when others clearly aren't reciprocating?
I understand your frustration, especially if these people really seemed into it and you've always done this in previous years, but there's only so much one person can do on their own. if they're not going to cooperate, there's not a whole lot you can do. this is the type of thing that happens when everyone starts getting different lives in different areas. having said that, I can understand your wanting to rant, and from what you say, it really does sound like they could at least give you a little more understanding, trying to make this work out for everyone, after all. that's more than could be said for a lot of people, myself included, who would probably just say Here's the place, here's the time. if you can't make it, o well. Your loss.
Okay, so yesterday, we all finally agreed on going to Tgi Fridays this coming Sunday evening. Thank God!
It's a good thing this rant came up when it did. I've been feeling the same myself.
When I was younger and single, the reason given was "I've got kids." Or, "I've got a boyfriend." Or, "The work number is diverted to my home number. Try later." The last one was in the day before everyone had cell phones, so calling to see about a social group might lead to someone's office off hours.
Now that I'm middle aged and have a small family of my own, it's "I've got to spend time with my elderly parents." And this from people who say they're so family and child oriented. Guess if you're their parents they just can't seem to separate from, they're hopelessly devoted to you. If you're another relation, you can just get stuffed. My sister in law talked about "wanting to see us up here, I miss the change of seasons in Florida, I miss the snow." I said "Sure. Just let us know when so we can get the place ready and have a ride from the airport for you." Never heard anything, but, this woman, who is just barely making it financially with two kids in college, somehow came up with the funds to take HERSELF AND THE TWO COLLEGE KIDS from Tampa to their native Algeria over the Atlantic.
Another woman I tried to set up a playdate between my daughter and hers. The two little girls are already good friends. The grandmom called me back right away, saying "Here's mom's number, Anna is back with her", but mom never returned my call. I was trying to set up a day at the beach for two little girls, not stalk the woman. If people, particularly family, want to reject me, that's fine, but I was really hoping my young daughter could get time with extended family. Guess that's too much to ask. And I agree with you: People get on my nerves, too.
I hope your evening at TGI Fridays was fun. Me, I'm going to have the Angelina Jolie mindset about my situation: "Only people who truly love your child should be around that child." And if that's just me, my husband, and her grandparents, that's fine.
Lol Squid! Well, I don't have kids and probably won't ever, but I still agree with that sentiment.
And to the original poster, I hope you guys did have some fun. And yes, people can be very annoying at times.